As young girls some of us grew up watching all these princess movies. Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Beauty and the Beast and others, and with all those princess movies we saw that at the ending they all found their princes and lived happily ever after. That's the life we all dreamt of as young children. And as we grew older we started watching more grown up movies. Romantic Comedies. With the same story-line as the princess movies. Girl meets boy, they go through struggle but live happily together in the ending. After which we unconsciously begin to form up this idea in our minds that we must find our 'Perfect Man' so that we can live happily ever after too.
By that being said, the other day I had a conversation with a friend about who our 'Perfect Guy' was and it made me think. Is there really a perfect guy? Men are normal human beings. They are all different with different characteristics and personalities. They all have flaws. Why are we (Women) so preoccupied on finding the 'Perfect Guy'? I mean dont get me wrong, I myself have created and fantasized over what I think to be my perfect guy. He had to be taller than me, deep voice, curly hair, nice smile and he has to be the embodiment of a romantic comedy. That was my perfect guy. But I realized I focused on the wrong things because, what if I found him and he turned out to be a douch bag? Dream, Squashed! Now let's put some thought into this. What if we do find our perfect guy, what made us believe that we are the perfect girl that he's looking for? Dream, Squashed!
Here's what I think. What if we are suppose to find a normal man that will lead us and love us. All that extra stuff is just that. Extra. It isn't what we are suppose to look for in a man. We are suppose to look for a man to protect us. A man to lead us. A man that can make good decisions for our family. A man that is patient, because he will have to be for when we get pregnant and our hormones are all over the place. A loyal man that sees only his family and how he can make them happy. A man who strives to succeed but needs you by his side because he doesn't want to succeed alone. A man that will empower you. That's the kind of men we need and should look for. All that extra special stuff is just stuff he will do because he appreciates you for being there for him.
By that being said, the other day I had a conversation with a friend about who our 'Perfect Guy' was and it made me think. Is there really a perfect guy? Men are normal human beings. They are all different with different characteristics and personalities. They all have flaws. Why are we (Women) so preoccupied on finding the 'Perfect Guy'? I mean dont get me wrong, I myself have created and fantasized over what I think to be my perfect guy. He had to be taller than me, deep voice, curly hair, nice smile and he has to be the embodiment of a romantic comedy. That was my perfect guy. But I realized I focused on the wrong things because, what if I found him and he turned out to be a douch bag? Dream, Squashed! Now let's put some thought into this. What if we do find our perfect guy, what made us believe that we are the perfect girl that he's looking for? Dream, Squashed!
Here's what I think. What if we are suppose to find a normal man that will lead us and love us. All that extra stuff is just that. Extra. It isn't what we are suppose to look for in a man. We are suppose to look for a man to protect us. A man to lead us. A man that can make good decisions for our family. A man that is patient, because he will have to be for when we get pregnant and our hormones are all over the place. A loyal man that sees only his family and how he can make them happy. A man who strives to succeed but needs you by his side because he doesn't want to succeed alone. A man that will empower you. That's the kind of men we need and should look for. All that extra special stuff is just stuff he will do because he appreciates you for being there for him.